Where does comparison go if there's no one to compare to?
AAllllll of this!! Thank you for your consistent authenticity and vulnerability. Your presence on and offline is a gift. Thank you for helping others make space to disconnect and be - thankful for you
Yes. Yes. Yes. The infinite scroll. I’ve become more aware about not spending time envying others’ accomplishments and lives. I have so much to love and be grateful for and that gets lost when you’re on social media. Thanks for the nudge to delete the apps. The world won’t end if I do it.
I. am. FEELING. THIS.
FELT. I'm so disillusioned with social media yet trying to build a business and promote my work (I typoed "worth" and damn is that telling) without it seems daunting. And I have recently admitted to myself that I am a scrolling addict...it's not the comparison for me, I think it's the fact that I (vulnerable moment here) have very few irl friends these days and spend so much time alone, which I love, I'm a hella intorverted extrovert and I'm fine with just hanging out with my cat most of the time, but it's TOO much alone time. So I scroll as a substitute...the illusion of participation, of connection is better than nothing, right? But is it? I don't feel great when I lose so much time mindlessly scrolling, and I do believe it's affected my attention span (I'm already adhd as fuck, I REALLY don't need the extra help lol), my creativity, my ability to sit with distraction. This post has given me a lot to think about. It's funny, the post I read before this was another by a friend, Caitlin Matanle, who has also been moving into offline spaces and processing her relationship to social media & showing up online vs keeping her life for herself. Reading them back to back...I've got some things to think about and some decisions to make and some boundaries to set for myself.
This piece describes perfectly my ongoing unhealthy relationship with social media. The post scroll ick stays on me and yet I go back for more.
The self awareness you have just shines through here. It truly is admirable. So many sleepwalk their way through their various addictions and never turn their attention inward (how can they when everyone else’s reels are in their face all day & night?!?!) I love love love this. Thank you Jamie
Jamie, you touched all of the things! I delete social media apps from my phone periodically to reconnect with myself and the world. Good going for you, too! As writers, we have to be on socials, and I find that connecting with people is so fun, UNTIL, the inevitable slide down into the Too-Much-Abyss. Keep meeting yourself in all the right places, girl. I think when we give ourselves that permission, that's when we create genuine connections with others doing the same thing. :) Hugs to you!
Boy, do I understand this. Especially the feeling of having a book come out, something so many people only dream about, a huge accomplishment - and it’s still not enough. That was my experience earlier this year, and the disappointment led to some massive changes in my life. I’m getting my sea legs again and even though I still have Instagram on my phone, I’ve deleted all the other social media apps and only visit them on my iPad (which seems to never be charged lol). Instagram is my last lifeline, but I may take a cue from you and take a break from it too. What good does scrolling do? I’ve never gotten inspiration from a scrolling binge. Never! I want to create, not consume all the damn time. Anyway, love this for you and thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable in all of your shares